There is a section of our society that judges women on how good their cooking skills are.
So if you cannot make round chappatis or cook a meal for 4 in a jiffy or cut beautiful salad like they teach in cookery classes then you don't quite fit into the "good-housewife/perfect-bahu (daughter-in-law)" mould.
It doesn't matter that you are an individual with other talents or maybe you are a jack-of-all-trades-master-of-none.
If you belong to this club of "not-the-world's-best-cooks" then the aunts will roll their eyes and look at you in pity, the baaju-wali-aunty shall offer unsolicited advice on how to roll out round-perfectly-fluffed-up-pooris, moms and moms-in-law shall try to pacify you by appreciating the one dish you can make well aka the bread sandwich, the rest of the relatives shall tsk tsk and try to lighten the situation by saying things like "Its OK! after all she works" or "These days there is so much else to do, where is time left for cooking" or "Taking care of the kid is such a big task in itself".
What no-one says is that it is OK if you can't cook or don't like cooking. Not every lady likes to read or dance or play tennis or drive or fly or work so why does every lady need to like cooking?
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